Do you have days when you feel, sad, depressed, less confident and overwhelmed? Does the environment around you sometimes feel harsh and unfair? Often, problems in our relationships, criticism, and rejection can all lower our self-esteem. Occasionally, even the most confident women have days when they do not feel good enough. Building a strong and lasting self-esteem takes a lot of patience and hard work. A negative body image can also lower our self-confidence. A low self-esteem can usually attract negative people in your life and sometimes we end up finding love in all the wrong places because, we do not feel worthy. A low self esteem can cause behaviors such as; a huge amount of negative self-talk, self-doubt, trying to be a perfectionist, frequently apologizing, and always wanting to get feedback from others. In order to develop positive and healthy relationships in your dating lives or otherwise, you need to be more confident, be you and respect yourself.
Here are some tips and I hope that they can help you be more positive in society were life is not always a bed of roses.
~ It’s our responsibility to take care of ourselves and develop positive spirits. On days when things aren’t going well for you, take some time to do the things that makes you happy. Recently I developed a habit of doing the things that bring me joy on bad days. I love to read books, listen to my favorite songs, watch movies and most of all I love to cook. So whether it’s getting a manicure, shopping for shoes,playing video games or trying new colors of eye shadow go for it.
~ Another way to release stress is meditation, exercises like yoga, and taking walks can greatly help in making your day better. This is something I really rarely do but I will love to practice these often. I believe they really help in keeping our mind, body and spirit healthy.
~ Try to shift every negative thought into a positive one. I know this is especially difficult but try to find the positive things in yourself rather than the negative ones. Each day try to give yourself 3 compliments. This will not only help you but it will also help the way you view others.
Finally treat yourself like a queen or king. Be authentically you and love everything about yourself. Take care of your surroundings; the plates you eat in should beautiful. Little things like your bedroom should be a sanctuary. Eating good and nutritious foods is a plus. I believe food absolutely brings joy and happiness. I’m not saying if you’re obese you should stay that way, it is necessary to be healthy and if there are things about your body you want to change go ahead as long as you don’t loathe your body. Find positive and good ways to make these changes while still being confident. Hopefully you have more happy days and make better relationships with friends, family, coworkers, or dating partners. When we are happy everyone around us tends to be happy. So let’s be contagious with our smile and confidence.
December 1, 2010 at 7:57 AM
This is lovely and really encouraging
December 2, 2010 at 9:54 AM
this is a very well written article. I love all the tips, they work like magic. :)